In these six years that I’ve been a parent, I’ve read tons of articles and books, taken classes in Love and Logic , participated in lots of committees on early childhood development, and the one thing keeps coming back to me- when I don’t stress so much on what I’m “supposed” to be doing, I enjoy my kids a lot more. When I take the time to actually talk to them instead of at them, I actually like being a mom instead of being the drill instructor.
A good scientific experiment would be to tally how many times I tell the boys to do something, remind them how to act, reprimand them for their behavior, and then tally how many times I actually talk with them about what they like, what they see…. actually relating with them in their world instead of making them keep pace in mine.
There were a few times this weekend when I put aside the drill instructor and actually talked with my kids without having the next thing pre-planned in my head (the “you-need-to-do-this-NOW” comment would be inserted here).
Now, I need to learn how to balance this in my life. I want to be able to enjoy my kids instead of being constantly frazzled. Raising twins is a constant adventure, and I want be awed instead of exhausted.